In a perfect world there’d be no such thing as a severed friendship.
No one would ever be able to utter the words, “We don’t talk anymore”.
But obviously the world is not perfect. And friendships end every day for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes they end for no reason at all.
It’s always difficult to lose a friend but it’s especially hard when you end a friendship on shaky or negative terms.
It’s easy to move on and act as if the loss of a close companion is no big deal but once you bond with someone – once you share your life with them… It’s very difficult to act as if they don’t exist.
Sadly, I’ve been in many situations where I was no longer speaking to someone and, as much as I wanted to, I couldn’t simply walk up to them and act as if no rift had ever occurred in our relationship.
Words hurt and when those words are accompanied by hurtful actions (and carried out by both parties) it can be so hard to communicate with someone as comfortably as you did before.
You may always have love for someone in your heart, but you’ll probably never be able to interact with them in the same way again.
So how do you get to a place where you can at least smile at them if your eyes meet?
You pray for them.
Luke 6:28 says, “Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you”.
It might seem like too much to ask but we have to consider that, although we are not always worthy, the Lord has prayed for us. (John 17:20 says, “Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on Me through their word”)
If the Son of God can pray for us when we are not at all worthy of it, then we can humble ourselves and pray for those who have hurt us.
It may not always change them, but it will change our hearts and cause to see others through kinder, more empathetic eyes.
So the next time I look up and see someone that I have a less than ideal relationship with, instead of turning away in irritation, I’ll look up and say a little prayer for them.